WHY DO MEN DATE YOUNGER WOMEN...MEN DO YOU AGREE WITH THIS VIDEO? WOMEN WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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Permalink Reply by qdaiman on November 5, 2008 at 2:11pm

i did respond to it earlier. jeff is 100% correct as is ryan stewart, there is two sides to this answer. the other brother is off his rocker his stance did not even make sense. he said that younger women supports his entrepenuerial mentallity. so does older women but they will make you work harder to provide them security.

men have become lazy and want to blame too much and put too much on women. if you are not trying to get married and is in his 30's that is one thing. he is honestly looking for a jump off. that is not normally a older women because they are looking for companionship. he dates younger women advantagously.

then you have rick who is they type of guy that dominates the age group. this is the unactualized brother that is basically immature. he has not arrived sort to say. he is lazy, manipulative, into drama, into game, full of it and has commitement issues. let the young ladies have him he is the cancer that you do not need. these guys then blame it on the attitude that women give off. this is the first sign of laziness and immaturity one of the things that age brings is patience. this was once the draw point to older men but not today. honestly the younger women find these guys hard to date also. these men are undateable and in abundance.

one thing that i've found is that the men that are not on the radar are 9 time out of 10 the ones that have the mental and intelectual capacity to date older women. you also have younger men know that are able to reach up and date out of their range.

i honestly feel that high profile women are having so many problems because they are not taking the time to analyze men for what they are and not what they seem or have. many blue collar men match perfectly with high profile women it is a natural relationship. the man labors hard physically all day and the women mentally it is what seperates the two in a relationship. he wants emotional comfort when he comes home and her physical.

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Permalink Reply by kimirhochelle on November 5, 2008 at 2:32pm

thanks, im very entrepreneurial and i have alot of friends that are also... so i was not sure who the gentleman was speaking of about younger women are more enterprising...i do think that the learning curb has not been worked so if an older man states to a younger woman an idea...more than likely she will agree and say great idea...an older seasoned woman will state its a good idea but this and this and this or bring other ingredients to the idea ...that seems to be an issue because some men do not want an idea or thought to be because of a women so i know many women that have to down play there intellegence just to communicate with a man in order to let him believe the entire idea was from him...

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Permalink Reply by qdaiman on November 5, 2008 at 7:10pm

yeah that's why ryan kind of skipped over him on one or two issues in the show. the show needs more attention than it gets because these brothers represent healthy brus that in doug's case is married to a strong women that supported him before he got the show up and running and in ryan's case is single and enjoying life after football it's almost like he is just now getting to enjoy himself.

everything that you felt is true, let me also make note that most men that are entreprepreurial have no formal education or they would say business professionals. this is another slogan for hustler. it is not a slap but a mind state that you have to recognize.

another problem is that it is hard to date down intilectually some of these dudes are not as smart as they put out there and there planning reflects it. i feel you i talk to people daily about business and i'm usually stunned at the level of insolence displayed by some business owners. it's not education it's savy and intilect.

that hustler dude was just off base. chris the comedian on the panel is real smart too.

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Permalink Reply by kimirhochelle on November 6, 2008 at 2:06pm

thank you for your great insight... i wish more men on this site would give their insight.. we women REALLY want to know and understand... we truly love our black men and have great hope and inspiration for them ... perhaps we too are open to learn ourselves in order to under our men... then the walls will come down!!!!

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Permalink Reply by qdaiman on November 6, 2008 at 6:47pm

anytime this is my passion i wish my bros. were stronger emotionally but they aren't. i'll tell my wife in a minute, "i'm a little sensitive right now so give me a break." that's all it takes, but you know how we are most go harder. hahahaha that just sounds stupid. we stupid. yeah i said. then we blame ya'll.

this is what i'll tell any man, TAKE THE LOVE THAT SHE GIVES YOU WHETHER IT HURTS OR NOT. and i live by that one.

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Permalink Reply by kimirhochelle on November 6, 2008 at 8:29pm

ah..i think some men on this site need to read this stuff.... WHERE ARE ALL THE MEN AT???

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Permalink Reply by Al Reid "Alsmillions" on November 8, 2008 at 12:32pm

When men purposely seek out younger women they are seeking a woman they expect to control. Now I know some men think they are sexually attracted to younger women, but they really want a women thay can control sexually. Now most men will never admit this, but the desire for a younger woman has nothing to do with her physical characteristics but her mental makeup. Her state of mind. Can I mode her or make her over? Any man who dates a woman on this premise will find out that it never really works out long term, because the woman matures and began to have wants and desires of her own. Pediphiles seek younger women for their physical characteristics, but use control also to continue the relationship and to keep the child for telling. One should never enter a relationship seeking to control the other. It only demeans the partner and causes many problems in the end.

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Permalink Reply by URBAN LYFESTYLES MAGAZINE on November 8, 2008 at 12:45pm

thats great but now i have a question...

WHAT IS THE MAN MOLDING OR CONTROLING HER TO DO?

being older now..when i meet someone..we both are learning to learn each other ..in a sense how to control the relationship...it appears that the control is better when the women does not have any say in what can be controlled.. i suppose what you are saying is that men are only one sided so its easier to control the side they want with younger women... with older women.. WE HAVE TO COMPROMISE AND COME TO SOME SORT OF AGREEMENT---TOGETHER...

i thought that was what a relationship was....!!!

thanks al..

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Permalink Reply by Al Reid "Alsmillions" on November 8, 2008 at 7:13pm

He's molding and control her to do whatever he wants. I understand what your saying, but the man I described to you previously cares little about what the woman wants.

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Permalink Reply by Lee Green on November 8, 2008 at 2:41pm

I'm not sure of your question: "why do men date younger men?" I hope you weren't going there.

If you meant, "why do men date younger woman", there may be several opinions.

First of all, from my perspective, I feel that there are some men who simply don't want to commit to anything or to anyone. They just don't want to do it and cloak that reality with a bunch of other BS.

Why? Because "commitment" is viewed as permanent and some brothers don't want to "man up". Some haven't seen enough of it in their lifetimes and it's unfamiliar territory.

Especially for younger men today who have grown up without fathers and/or other positive male role models.

It's also viewed as "weakness" in some quarters. Brothers definitely don't want to appear weak to their peers, especially if that is a major influence in their lives.

Also, we've heard that saying, "why pay for the cow when you can get the milk for free". I think that it's true. Men tend to want the easy way out.

Sometimes woman, who typically compete with one another, give in and give it up and brothers will sit back and let them without having to make a commitment to any of them.

This is "low fruit" and easy pickings. The brother's attitude is, why work at or commit to, something that is so easily and freely given. To them to do so is stupid.

Another thing is, there are also women who have highly charged "expectations" based on their upbringing, tv, romance novels and movies and men feel this as "pressure".

Sometimes it's necessary pressure that can be used as a "tool" to get men to take action. Other times its just drama and brothers generally don't want drama. No way, no how.

Men sometimes feel that commitment of any kind will "lock them in" and prohibit their freedom in the field. They want to play. Play woman, play macho, play video games and play sports.These types haven't matured, they've just gotten older.

Those who won't commit ... cheat.

Those who may commit ... may also feel vulnerable to it and so avoid long term relationships. Some of these types have may been hurt in the past and are seeking to avoid that pain again.

Those who will commit ... do so when they find the right woman for them and are man enough to handle it, at just the right time in their lives.

Until one comes to themselves spiritually "commitment" will remain an elusive reality for a significant portion of men today.

To me, the issue of younger woman, is a matter of taste and preference.

Some men don't like skinny women.

Some men don't like over-weight women.

Some men don't like light skin ... or dark skin women.

Some men don't like opinionated and overbearingly "strong" women.

Some men don't like women who won't chase them. Some men don't like women who do.

I think that "age" falls into that type of category.

It's a preference that is either an acquired taste or a desired fantasy.

Over my lifetime, I have dated both younger and older woman and find virtue in each choice.

As they say, "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" and "variety is the spice of life".

Here are two videos that were posted on this site in the past. They may add to the discussion:

WANTED: BLACK MEN

A Message to the Black Man - "You Got to Be Responsible"

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Permalink Reply by kimirhochelle on November 8, 2008 at 4:07pm

LOL.....NO WONDER.....MY BAG... i am leaving but i want to see all of this ...will be back...

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Permalink Reply by Lee Green on November 8, 2008 at 4:26pm

Here's the links to those other discussions:

Wanted: Black Men - http://www.blackbusinessspace.com/video/820753:Video:92581

A Message to the Black Man: "You've Got to Be Responsible" - http://www.blackbusinessspace.com/forum/topics/820753:Topic:152057

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